Fellas, Fellas, Fellas.. uhmm. Yall never cease to amaze me. Lately I've been hearing a lot of males complain about us females and the problems we create. And first, let me start off by saying: You can't judge an entire gender off of the wrong-doings of the little hood rats you've messed with. And secondly, like my main dude Katt Williams said if you keep attracting worthless people you probably need to figure out what it is about your 'pussy' or in this case your swag, your personality, your actions, your game, etc., that's attracting worthless people. [Note: I didn't quote him verbatim, dur. But that's the main idea.] But anyway let me address a few of the concerns shown by the males and ladies listen up.
Okay I'm tired of males not understanding why many females cast judgement based off of the guys in their past. NOTE: I agree, fellas, it's wrong and I'm not condoning it in any way. HOWEVER, if you get bitten by a snake I sure bet yall would be hella careful around the next snake you see, right? Same theory.
BUT LADIES seriously we need to stop blaming every man for another man's dirt. And if you have serious reason to expect your man is doing you wrong.. why are you still with him? Don't be naive. Don't be gullible. And definitely don't condone his actions because all you're doing is making it hard for the next black woman. If you call him on it 1 of 2 things will happen: 1 if it's true love maybe he'll change his ways and yall can eventually move on. 2 maybe he'll eventually realize "Hey, I guess this forever a pimp stuff doesn't really work" and you'll have done the next chick he gets with a huge service.
Also LADIES [I hate to side with the fellas BUT] quit suppressing the few good men we have. If you have a good man, embrace him and quit nagging. My daddy also told me if you hear enough of something negative you'll eventually stop trying to make people believe you're positive. Stop saying all black men are bad and shine light on the good black men. Stop pointing out all dude's flaw and comparing them to white men or Hispanic men. Quit tearing down my strong black brothers. Most dude's out there thuggin or playing females only do it for 1 of 3 reasons: 1. Enough black women have put him down; swearing he's not going to be anything to the point where he either believes it, or he doesn't care to prove anybody wrong anymore. 2. He's model after a brother, uncle, or father [who many times acts the way he does b/c of reason number 1.] or 3. He's not mature yet. BUILD OUR MEN UP NOT TEAR THEM DOWN!!
And fellas, stop allowing women to beat up your egos. Now, I don't mean being egotistical and arrogant but develop some self esteem! Us ladies can tell when a man has confidence because he'll drop all the 'game' and 'lines' and step to us with respect. Not necessarily nerdy or dorkish or even lame but he'll step with respect enough to get to know our names. Like saying "shorty" and "sweetie" is okay once every blue moon but honestly I've have more respect and compassion to say something like you have good sense. Leave the mack at home if you're trying to find something real and true. Like, seriously. Now, I'll admit some dudes can step to me with 'game' and I'll know it's game but at the time I won't really care because I'm not seeing him as dating material. He's just tryna have fun like me. But if you come respectfully I'm more likely to see you as more than 1 Saturday in February. Yeh Dig?
And last but not least ladies quit thinking game is your next boyfriend. And fellas quit thinking that booty is your next wife. Game is exactly what it is. It's not meant to last long. It's not meant to be something special. And booty is the same way. Find something durable.. something less disposable. And make sure you're all together and content with yourself before you go searching. A bf/gf is not necessarily supposed to complete you but their suppose to compliment you. SO COMPLETE YOURSELF AND FIND YOUR COMPLIMENT.
Thanks.. ©--»JaiLove™
