There comes a point in life in which we have to grow up. As women, we often find ourselves on the constant and continual search for love and happiness. We throw ourselves whole-heartedly into the dating game with hopes of so many fish being our respective filet mignons; and for many of us ladies out there we realize that instead of the top cuisine meal we had hoped for, we constantly get let down. Now, our first instinct as self-respecting, confident women is to blame external forces. I know you have heard it one too many times, “All the good men are either gay or married,” or better yet, “Those [other race] women keep taking away our men.” I have been there, asked the same questions, and sat my fair share of nights in the dark listening to Gladys Knight’s “Neither One of Us.”
I have recently seen the sweet, sweet, glorious light and today I challenge you ladies to do the same. The advice I’ve come to give isn’t of any novel nature in itself, but with the recent slew of pro-aggressive advice given to women in the realm of relationships I think it’s time we get reintroduced to the concept of simply living life. Stop looking for dates and relationships and take that time and energy to work on you. It’s time we step back to figure out how to be complete without finding that someone to “complete” us. Think about how many hours we pine away sending up silent prayers and wishing that we find our special someone versus the hours we spend proactively getting ourselves together. I’m guilty of these actions too. I cannot deny the many days I spent in my feelings wishing for my “on-point” guy, but in actuality I should have spent that time working to be on point myself.
