What Happened to My Black "MEN"

First let me start by saying that I grew up which the vast majority of my family being male. So I have been blessed to not only have the personal female perspective I also have a great insight on the minds of men and why they do the things they do. And there are times in discussion that you could assume I'm siding with the guy's point of view and I would agree --because honestly some of the things we say as women have no follow-through. They just don't quite cut it in the world of logic. But what I'm about to say is going to going to be almost completely out of my character, but it has to be done. And don't get me wrong I'm going to bring up both sides of this argument but as for now I feel like I should write about the problems occurring with many black men.

Okay, let me disclaim this whole entry by saying I LOVE black men. I love everything about them! I seriously could not do without them. I'm not opposed to interracial relationships but to me it's never even crossed my mind. Ever since I was little, I knew I was going to fall in mad in love with a beautiful, masculine black man, get married, and have beautiful black babies. I still find that to be true. Not that men of other races aren't attractive but to me all they earn is a "He's cute for a 'insert race here' boy." Not that it matters but to me black men are the cream of the crop. There is none greater! They're second to none.. well, okay, I think you get the idea, so I'll move on.

Now with all my love for black brothers, I feel, as proud supporter and proponent of black love, that it is obligation to speak out and give brothers a reality check. So here it goes:

For I don't know how long I've been hearing black men complain about black women, and the comments I hear are so degrading and ignorant. I understand there are a few characteristic that we, as black women, commonly carry and sometimes I know that some things many of us black women do can be a bit overbearing. But to swear off black men for other races.. that's extreme. Especially when you do it under the pretenses that every single black woman is the exact same to the next black woman.

Men for the longest time had been asking --or should I say, complaining, rather-- that black women hold on to the grudges of past relationship and that we judge our current/future relationships and men by the misdoings of our exboyfriends/husbands. Which, I have to be honest, does occur. But wouldn't you say by assuming every black is actually like the last sister you've met or dated is doing the same thing, essentially?

I'm tired of hearing this conversations and discussion where black women are being torn down. If you're having problems in relationship or simply with the people you encounter, why don't you take the time to evaluate not other that person but yourself. Make sure you didn't have any contribution to the downfall of that relationship or encounter.. and if all is well on your part feel free to place blame --not on ALL black women but those who have made you believe such things.

Black men, more than anyone, should know how hard it is to live with negative stereotypes weighing down on you. And yet, black men, more now than ever, have placed negative stereotypes on black women. Now, don't get me wrong so woman do fulfill these stereotypes and I'm not condoning this women or their wrong doing, however, I am saying to black men that in no way does that excuse you or allow you to judge black women as a whole based on a few bad apples. How do you all think that makes us women who are looking for a decent relationship with a black man feel when we hear that we're damned even before we try? It's like why even put forth effort to show men that we're different if they won't even allow us the second of a day to prove, "WE'RE NOT ALL THE SAME!"

Again, as I stated before I am planning on presenting the problems with black females later but for now I'd like some men to explain to me the justification behind the actions you all put forth? If you're a black man looking for love and would like that love to be with a black woman change you're current outlook if you're what I describe because honestly if you expect all black women to act negatively then all you will meet is negative black women.

There will probably be a part two to this considering the fact I can't concentrate due to American Idol being on. So leave your love.. Leave your hate... this Jai Bird's song is to be continued ;o]! Love yall.

©JaiLove™

Obama vs. Clinton

Okay, it's time for Little Miss Political to voice her opinion on today's' politics. Now, first off let me start by addressing that I DO NOT SUPPORT Obama because he is an African-American. I support him solely because he's the one candidate I agree with the most. I'm getting tired with America making this election about race! Sure, there is an African-American and a woman running for the first time in history but this race has been going on for how long now? It's about time to get over the shock value. We, as a country, are in too critical of a place to be focusing on details that really play no part with how the country will be ran if either one of these candidates were elected.



I know that many Americans are now upset because of Obama's pastor Richard Wright and his "anti-patriotic" comments on America. But to be honest you can't judge a man by the words his pastor says. What the media has been portraying has been taken totally out of context. I'm really big on politics and I've been following this race closely, so when these allegations came about instinctively I set out to do research. And after reviewing the particular message the media extracted the sound clip from, I was utterly disgusting with what the media has once again done. And let me pause parenthetically to say: if you're basing your votes solely on what the media has shown, you as a person are cheating yourself and this country. Now I know you can't conduct personal interviews with each candidate and then decide who's best BUT you can do your research to either back up or deny what the media has fed you. But anyway back to what I was saying... the message Jeremiah Wright was preaching was a Palm's Sunday sermon was urging his congregation not to treat the government as God.

And if we want to still bash him for his comments, let us not forget that when Hilary was in the white house with Bill their pastor was Billy Graham and he has even said in so many words that America is going to have to pay for her misdoings.



But, wait, let me disclaim my remarks by saying that in no way am I condoning anti-Americans but I don't believe Jeremiah Wright nor Obama are in any way anti-America. Wright is a radical-type preacher as many other preachers are declared. Some things he says maybe be shunned upon --especially by white America.



I was watching the news the other day and some politician said that Wright was psycho because he mentioned his belief that AIDS was a government instituted disease. But to be 100% honest that concept came about in the 70's and its something I've heard many times within the black community. And it's not like it's 100% unbelievable since we do know of the government giving a camp full of blacks syphilis to see how it would react with humans. My point is just because you have not heard these notions you can not discount them to be something of alien descent or even say that he's some type of crazy cultist. And you can't believe that some one's pastor is their sole source of knowledge. I don't necessarily agree with what people within my church congregation have to say.. and I'm not judged by their comments either.



Obama is a good man! And on the other hand I don't support Clinton because she comes off as very passive-aggressive and sneaky. There is just something about her that is dishonest. And at the start of this race I was for her but she lost my trust by letting Bob Johnson speak on her behalf to tell us that as African-Americans we shouldn't vote for Obama because he's exploiting the black vote. And I'm thinking isn't this the same guy who exploited blacks on his BET channel then sold it so that we could be exploited even more. But I guess exploitation is only okay when it involves money.. but votes? OH NO!



Let me digress.. my blood temperature's rising. Lol. Think about what I said.. Spread the love or hate and comment. I'm GONE!