If It Isn't Love?

I figured out exactly what my problem is with relationships. And I figure that I'm probably not the only person with this problem so as I self-diagnose myself I figure I'll take yall along on the ride.

Okay. So as a black kid growing up you're encouraged to watch black movies. Which primarily always have to do something with love. I've always told my friends I wanted that Love & Basketball/Brown Sugar type of love. Of course jokingly but however I saw these movies and admired so many things Omar Epps and Taye Diggs had to offer both of Sanaa Lathan's characters. I guess you could say I somewhat fell in love with the attributes fictional characters had to offer. However in the midst of yet another hopeless, failed, relationship disaster, I realized something. Maybe I can't find these attributes because they're about as fictional as the characters. Maybe I'm expecting too much of perfection. Maybe I need to stop outlining my dream man. Not every guy I date has to be marriage material. Maybe I need to live life to the fullest and have fun within my relationships.

YET, how easy is it? And why do we subject ourselves to these mythical allusions about love? How easy is it to love, and to be loved? How do we find it? And when we find it will it have conditionals and contract-like holds on it?

For those who have been in successful relationships.. those who have loved in the purest form and enjoyed it... can you share with us hopeless romantics? I normally don't get all lovey-dovey, ewwy-gooey but I just want to know. Before I walk into another disaster. I want 2008 to be an 'advancement' on Jai's dating scene.

Feel free to comment. Shout-outs to Jia-Tv.com who linked your girl, little old Jai. Lol. Check her out she's killing the blog and vlog game right now. Let her know who sent you! Anyway share what you think and get at me!

P.S. I love New Edition.. that's one of the reasons why I felt this blog should to be titled that. Lol. But for all of yall old-schoolers, yall can't tell me that Ralph (Tresvant, for all who don't know and are about to Google it) didn't look about as homosexual as Miss Jay from ANTM. Lol. What was with that whole putting your head in the bucket and slinging it back like he did in the video for "If It Isn't Love". That was really awkward looking.. I've always thought that. And I know the boy was skinny and all but did he really have to be the only one wearing tights and flats? REALLY? Let me leave Ralph alone. I still got love for New Edition. From their original members to the remakes! =0]